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When expression is held back
What happens when you do not say what you really mean? When you feel that something wants to come out, but it stays inside the body? Here we explore what lies behind it, how it can be felt – and what you can do about it.
We are made for expression
We are creative, sensing and expressive beings. Putting thoughts, feelings and needs into words is a natural part of being human. Yet many people experience that something holds back – that expression stops before it reaches its destination.
A person can shape themselves strongly around other people’s expectations. Fear of rejection or a need for approval can make it harder to sense and express your own needs.
When expression is held back over time, it can affect the body, emotions, relationships and self-esteem. It can feel like holding your breath – and the longer it lasts, the more energy it takes to keep it in.
Why do we hold back?
There can be many reasons why we do not say, sing or show what we really want to.
Fear
- Fear of being judged
- Fear of conflict
- Anxiety about taking up too much space
Past experiences
- Having been criticised or rejected
- Having learned that it is safest to stay quiet
- Shame connected to vulnerability
Social norms
- Expectations to be strong
- Adapting in order to be liked
- Putting other people’s needs first
Inner beliefs
- “What I say is not important”
- “I don’t know how to say it”
- “I have to be good”
Physical causes
- Stress and overload
- Pain or tension
- A nervous system on alert
How does it show up in everyday life?
A block can be subtle or obvious, and it looks different from person to person.
In the body
- Tension in the throat, jaw or neck
- Pressure or a lump in the throat
- Heavy breathing or shortness of breath
- A voice that becomes weak or disappears
In the emotions
- Frustration and irritation
- Shame or guilt
- A feeling of being “wrong”
- Losing touch with what you really mean
What does a block sound like?
A block can sound different – in speech, singing or other forms of expression.
- A hoarse or pressed voice
- A very high, strained voice
- A low, indistinct voice
- A voice that suddenly stops
- A monotone voice without energy
- Stuttering or choppy speech
- The voice disappearing completely
From block to freedom
It is possible to create change
When a pattern becomes visible, a distance can open up between the person and the pattern. In that distance, the possibility of a choice arises.
Becoming aware of the block is the first step. After that you can explore what lies behind it, what you need in order to create change, and practise expressing yourself – in small and large situations.
In the Leading Voice Method we work holistically with voice, body, emotions and thought, so that you can find your way back to your natural power and your authentic expression.
What is held back does not disappear.
Andrea Rydin
It simply waits for a safe place to be heard.
Would you like to explore your expression further?
Explore the programmes or book a conversation with Andrea.